January 1st. We’ve all been here before. It’s time to decide if we’re willing to set ourselves up with some New Year’s resolutions. To resolve to do something better or bring a new kind of wonderful into our lives. But why do we even need to decide if we’re going to make resolutions? It’s in those 3 shadowy words…. fear of failure.
Unresolved resolutions. We’ve experienced them in the past. Do we really want to take ourselves there again? So many times before, we’ve launched straight out of the gate with the best intentions and somehow, someway, get sucked back into the same old habits. New habits take time to form and old habits die hard. That’s why creating new ones is a process that must be gently fostered.
If babies were afraid of falling down while learning to walk, they’d never get off the floor. Not succeeding in our tasks is an important part of the process and for every unsuccessful attempt, we get closer. That is, if we’re willing to look at what did and didn’t work and tweak the process along the way.
Sometimes a big part of the problem is that subconsciously, we don’t even believe that the goals we set for ourselves are feasible. But there we go, putting them out there anyways. Let me tell you now, if you don’t believe you can do something, there’s a good chance you can’t.
To be clear, I’m certainly not telling you that you actually can’t do it. It’s just that the belief needs to be worked on first. When we believe in our abilities, anything really is possible.
One way that we can cultivate belief in ourselves is by incrementally increasing how we challenge our self. We can do this by setting one small goal at a time, taking the neccessary steps to set ourselves up for success and then of course, by sticking with it. Once we reach our goal, it’s equally important that we take a moment to acknowledge and celebrate our achievements before putting our focus on something just a tiny bit bigger. This process builds our belief in self.
It’s important to also know that for a resolution to be successful, it must be lined up with what our subconscious really wants for us. When we try to go against the subconscious, it will always find a way to meet it’s own agenda. Instead, we must align the subconscious and the conscious mind.
January 1st is a transitional time and transitions can be some of the best times for developing new habits and fresh starts. I encourage you now to create some small resolutions and then to set yourself up with support you need. Utilize these tips and prepare yourself for victory!
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